Five Frequent Mistakes Made By Those With Elderly Parents
1. Not having a discussions about alternative living arrangements for your parents.
It is important to be proactive concerning this! It is so much easier and less confrontational to start this process early and often. If you start early having discussions about options and choices, you can be much more low key about it.
If you wait and start talking about it after your Dad has fallen and broken his hip, there is no time to be low key-you are now “under the gun” to find answers quickly!
2. Not having a clear picture of your parents’ financial situation.
Know whether or not they have a long term care policy. If so, you should know where it is and make sure it’s easily accessible. Also, take some time to read through it so you know what it does and does not cover.
If they do not have insurance, what other financial resources do they have? Perhaps it would make sense for you and your parents to talk with a lawyer about Medicaid eligibility and spend down rules. Also, if you have a parent who is a Veteran, it’s possible they’re eligible to receive coverage for some services.
3. When your parents’ health starts to fail, thinking that a nursing home is the only option.
There are no shortage of options around these days. If your parent is resolute about staying in their own home, it is very possible to arrange for care there.
There are also ways to be very creative about combining several modalities of care. For instance, a family might have their father go to adult day care several times a week during the day, then have a caregiver stay over nights and family members supplement the other times if needed. The possibilities are endless to customize a plan that is just right for your situation.
4. Waiting until the last minute to get help.
Nothing is more stressful than trying to formulate a plan of care knowing your Mom is coming home tomorrow from the hospital. There is no way to make good, rational decisions that quickly and under that much duress. You will feel overwhelmed.
Start early doing your homework. Begin to form a relationship with a couple of agencies or facilities you feel comfortable with by having them come out and do an Assessment or you and your parents visiting a facility. When and if an emergency strikes, you will be calling up people who know you and is familiar with your loved one’s situation.
5. Only looking at cost when deciding between care options.
This can go both ways. There are very expensive nursing home facilities that have very poor track records of care. Don’t be swayed by fancy brochures, videos or tours. Try and talk to some of the actual residents and their loved ones.
When it comes to in-home care, the lowest hourly rate may not be your best option. Keep in mind that good, quality caregivers require a higher salary. The good home care agencies simply can’t offer the lowest rates yet provide the best senior caregivers. And be sure that you meet, and approve of, any caregiver BEFORE they start providing care for your loved one.
Theanna Zika founded St. Louis, MO senior home care company, Heavenly Helpers, in 2004. She shares tips, strategies and advice about caring for seniors that she has learned over the years on the blog at her company’s website. The site also features a helpful list of St. Louis, MO senior resources for seniors and their loved ones in the St. Louis, MO Metro area.